When I was quite young, I had a soaring imagination.
Long before I learned what I could not do, I dreamed of doing what I knew we could.
I remember, as a young girl, lying on my back in the cool, soft grass late at night, my mind sinking into the depths of the crystal-clear stars that blanketed the summer sky above me. I could reach out and touch those stars. I could imagine any dream and see it come true.
It was only later that my dreams gave way to more practical considerations. Star-filled heavens, dew-soaked grass, and princely dreams of imaginary kingdoms bowed to more rational requirements.
As I began to pursue my education, I began to learn what we could not do.
In time, I became more intent on studying the laws and the limits of man, than on learning the far-reaching extremities of mankind’s potential. I learned all of the “shoulds,” “musts,” and “cannots.” I was told that it was bad to have your head in the clouds and it was good to have your feet on the ground.
So I extracted my head from the magical excitement of the universe and got down to business learning about the more practical matters of survival and acceptance. From time to time I had the nagging suspicion that there was more to all of this than was meeting the eye—I just couldn’t see it yet. It was years before I decided it was time to stop and look at the stars again.
But I did. The result of that one small decision changed my direction and my life.
By the time I stopped and sank once again, upwards, into the stars, I had completed a ten-year odyssey which took me from the backroads of a farmland village in Ukraine to the United States; from a quiet countryside of farm land to a city. My odyssey took me to snow-covered Detroit college campus, and to palm-lined streets of California.
Somewhere, during that time, I began to wonder and dream again, as I had as a young girl years before. What if we could? I wondered. What if we could find what’s stopping us and turn it around? What if there is an answer and no one else has looked in the right place? What if any of us, at any time, could reach up and touch the stars?
Eventually, I recognized that if I was going to find what I was looking for, I would have to set a new course and search in a different direction. To find the specific answer I sought, I would have to embark upon a journey of my own.
I knew there had to be a better way, something that was obvious perhaps, something that might have been overlooked. I believed that mastering one’s future must surely start with managing one’s “self.” And if we could accomplish that, we could manage and master at least a part of what we call “life.”
As I continued to study the inner workings of the human mind, I decided to look further into the brain itself. And it was there that, in time, I found many answers—and one simple, undeniable solution that would shed life-changing new light on why we, as humans, fail to live out so much of our incredible potential…why as human we get to suffer with terrible illness such an autoimmune disease . . . and what we can finally do to change that.
For many years, I studied the philosophies of success, analyzed the lists of instructions—the “how-to’s” of making healing from a chronic illness, losing weight, overcoming depression, setting goals, living with others, managing time, or just generally “being more successful.” I tried the success techniques for myself and talked to dozens of others from many walks of life who had done the same.
I talked to doctors, bought the books, or listened to the audio tools and watched the videos. To learn what really “worked,” and what did not, I immersed myself in the world of success, examining every facet of that fascinating field from the inside out. I consulted with the leaders of the industry. I examined their methods, their systems, and their “solutions.”
Have you ever been inspired to change, to achieve something important, and then stopped? Where did the inspiration and the motivation go—and why didn’t it last? If there are so many answers to our questions about what to do to make life better to make our health better, why have so many people failed at making these great ideas work?
Or if they worked for a time, what makes them stop working? It became obvious to me after all my research that within the information on how to lead a better life, how to find more happiness and personal fulfillment, how to heal from a disease, something vital was missing.
It was something so essential, so important to the whole process of achieving success that, without it, the solutions wouldn’t work—at least, not for any length of time. The problem is not with the books. The problem is not with the seminars or with the motivational talks. There are a lot of personal growth concepts and techniques that are wonderful. They could work—and they should. There has to be a good reason why the help they give us isn’t permanent. After studying the success ideas and solutions that could work for us, I began to recognize that there was also something working against us.
FINDING A SOLUTION THAT LASTS
I was quite young when I first heard the Biblical passage which reads, “As a man thinketh, so is he.”
I recall shaking my head, thinking that could not be. How could we possibly be what we think? After all, isn’t our physical self one thing, and our private thought another? Little did I (or most of us then) understand that the Biblical passage had hit the nail of truth squarely on the head. It would be years later, however, after much research, and following the discoveries through which modern-day neuroscientists had begun to unlock the secrets of the human mind, that I would come to know just how correct––how scientifically correct––that Biblical passage had been.
After you examine the philosophies, the theories, and the practiced methods of influencing human behavior, you’ll find, as I did, that it gets down to the simplicity of one small but powerful fact: You will become what you think about most; your success or failure in anything, large or small, will depend on your programming––what you accept from others, and what you say when you talk to yourself.
At the time I first recognized that this one simple clue could lead to a breakthrough in individual attitude and performance, most of what we thought we understood about the human brain was little more than speculation. Medical researchers and neuroscientists had not yet explored or mapped the mazes of the brain to the extent which they have today. Few of the brain’s complex electrochemical mysteries were fully understood. But today, as research continues, the marvelous human brain is yielding up more and more of its secrets.
Each day more progress is made, and researchers have learned to anticipate an unending drama of new discoveries. An understanding of that simple function of our own personal computer—the human brain—is what has been missing from most of the books and most of our motivational talks. The answer to the problem turned out to be the result of something that had been almost entirely overlooked: We are trying to force the brain to do something that it has not been programmed to do. We want to create success with “rules of success,” but that’s not how the brain works; that’s not how the brain is wired. The reason why some people accomplish nearly any task more easily than others, achieve their goals more readily, heal from a disease, and live their lives more fully, is this: Those who appear to be “luckier” than the rest have actually only gotten better mental programming to begin with, or have learned how to erase their old negative programming and replace it with something better.
In the last few years, we have learned more about the workings of the human brain than was known throughout all history prior to that time. We now know that by an incredibly complex physiological mechanism, a joint effort of body, brain, and “mind,” we become the living result of our own thoughts.
It is no longer a success theory; it is a simple, but powerful, fact.
Neither luck nor desire has the slightest thing to do with it. It makes no difference whether we believe it or not. The brain simply believes what you tell it most. If you tell yourself that there is not cure for your illness, you won’t even see the answers when they are right in front of you.
And what you tell it about you, it will create. It has no choice.
Through scientific discovery in the field of neuroscience—research into how the brain works to affect every moment of our day-to-day lives—we have proved the relationship between our own programming (how we are mentally “wired”) and our success or failure in any endeavor we undertake, from something as important as a lifetime goal to something as small as what we do in a single day. Have you ever considered just how much of what you do––how you act, how successful you are––is dependent on the conditioning, the programming you received from others, and on the conditioning you subsequently accepted and kept giving yourself? It is virtually impossible for any of us to do anything, no matter how insignificant, without being affected by that programming.
Every step you take, move you make, and word you say is affected. It follows that if every action you take, of any kind, is affected by prior programming, then the end results of your actions are equally affected––in short, how successful you will be at anything is inexorably tied directly to the words and beliefs about yourself that you have stored in your subconscious mind.
And what is stored there, for most of us, was decided for us by someone else.
The human brain, that incredibly powerful personal biochemical computer that each of us has, is capable of doing for you anything reasonable that you’d like it to do. But you have to know how to treat it; you have to know how to wire it in the right way. If you do it right, and give it the right directions, it will do the right thing—it will work for you in the right way. But if you give your mental computer the wrong directions, it will act on those wrong directions; it will continue to respond to the negative programming that you and the rest of the world have been giving it. You have literally been wiring your brain in the wrong way, physically—without even being aware of it.
THE 148,000 “NO’S”
I’ll give you an example of some of the negative programming most of us have received, the kind of programming that, along the way, eventually got hard-wired into the physical structure of our mental computers. And those seemingly harmless words build up inside our subconscious minds, word by word and thought by thought, eventually creating a brick wall of failure we often don’t see, much less know how to fix. Here’s how it works. During the first eighteen years of our lives, if we grew up in fairly average, reasonably positive homes, we were told “No” or what we could not do, or what would not work, more than 148,000 times.
If you were more fortunate, you may have been told “No” only 100,000 times, or 50,000 times––however many, it was considerably more negative programming than any of us needs. Meanwhile, during the same period, the first eighteen years of your life, how often do you suppose you were told what you can do or what you can accomplish in life? A few thousand times? A few hundred? During my speaking engagements to groups across the country, I have had people tell me they could not remember being told what they could accomplish in life more than three or four times!
Whatever the number, for most of us the “Yes’s” we received simply didn’t balance out the “No’s.” The occasional words of “belief” were just that—occasional––and they were far outweighed by our daily doses of “Cannot’s.”
This negative programming that we all received (and still receive) has come to us quite unintentionally: It has come to us from our parents, who wanted to protect us; it has come to us from our brothers and sisters, from our teachers, our schoolmates, our associates at work, from our doctors our life-mates, advertising of all kinds, the morning paper and the six o’clock television news and the Internet.
Leading behavioral researchers have told us that as much as seventy-seven percent of everything we think is negative, counterproductive, and works against us.
At the same time, researchers have said that as much as seventy-five percent of people cannot recover from their illness. It’s no wonder. What if the researchers are correct?
That means that as much as seventy-five percent or more of our programming is the wrong kind. Until recently, no one understood well enough the human mind—how the human brain gets wired and rewired—and that this programming and wiring process goes on throughout our entire lives. The result was that without knowing what they were doing, and with us not recognizing the immense effect this “casual” programming was having on us, without anyone being aware of it, everything and everyone around us has been programming us. And they have been programming us in the wrong way.
In time, we became what we most believed about ourselves. And in so doing, we created that wall of failure and self-doubt, which for most of us will stand invisibly but powerfully between us and our unlimited future for as long as our old programming remains in force. Unless the programming we received is erased or replaced with different programming, it will stay with us permanently and affect and direct everything we do for the rest of our lives. Fortunately, that doesn’t have to be the case.
What if each and every day, from the time you were a small child, you had been given an extra helping of self-confidence, double the amount of determination, and twice the amount of belief in the outcome? Can you imagine what tasks you might accomplish more easily, what problems you would overcome, or what goals you could reach?
After all, success, ultimately, is up to the individual. It isn’t the pen––it’s the writer; it isn’t the road––it’s the runner that counts. Whatever age you are now, however many successes or failures you’ve had along the way, what if you could now change that old mental programming? What if you could rewire your brain? And what if you could do it in such a way that you could affect and improve your attitudes and your behavior quickly––not through years of difficult study or training, but easily and simply, anytime you chose to do so?
What if you had a different belief system and knew that there are solutions to every problem, every illness? What actions would you take?
This is something I’ve discovered while working with some of our clients, who were able to heal so fast despite of being sick for 10+ years and for some took a lot longer. What made each of them so different?
It was the belief system and their attitude.
I remember one client -Victoria, diagnosed with autoimmune thyroditis. When we asked her this simple question: “Why do you want to reverse your illness?” And she said: “Why would I NOT to?” She never even question whether it was possible. She had a total trust in the process and total trust in herself! In only two weeks her ANA test went from 100 to 41! The healing process is so much easier and faster when someone has a different kind of attitude.
Viktoriya and Oksana Gruzdyn are Nutritionists and Immunotherapy Researchers based in Detroit, MI. They specialize in helping people reverse autoimmune and other chronic illnesses by optimizing their immune function and cellular repair.