What you focus on grows. Which is why people who put a lot of energy into focusing on what they don’t want, by talking about it, thinking about it, complaining about it, usually get precisely that unwanted thing.
It is tough to get rid of the habit you don’t want by facing it head on. The way to accomplish it is to replace the unwanted habit with another habit that you do want. And creating new and better habits, ones that empower and serve you, is something you know how to do.
HABIT #1: SHOW UP
It is not just about deciding that you want to do something but actually TAKING ACTION. When you talk with people who have achieved extraordinary things things ask them how it was that they accomplished whatever it is they’ve done, it is stunning how often they will tell you some version of this: I just DECIDED TO DO IT. Skill, knowledge, health, resources, fitness, expertise, all these things are part of the journey – but not of them are possible until the journey itself is initiated.
When I left my bellowed job in California to work along side with my sister, I had to start my life from the ground ZERO again. I remember when my sister told me she just hired a coach for 7K for 8 weeks of coaching, I was terrified and my sister told me that we have to commit to this, and if we do, that’s half the battle right there. If you will commit to showing up consistently, every day, no matter what, then you have already won well MORE than half the battle. The rest is up to skill, knowledge drive, and execution.
HABIT #2 CULTIVATE A BURNING DESIRE BACKED BY FAITH
I am here to tell you that wanting something isn’t going to get it for you. And that’s true- but it means desire its a necessary ingredient. The truth is, desire in itself is often a pretty fickle, weak thing. You want something, and then the feeling passes. Like an infant, we desire a shiny object, and then once its in our hands our attention is caught by something else, and the shiny object that was sought so earnestly moments ago now falls from our fingers unnoticed.
Sometimes, though, desire gets deep own on the inside and starts to burn-and when it does it can burn for years. That’s the kind of desire that gets you up early it can burn for years. That’s the kind of desire that gets you up early and keeps you up late. Its what keeps you motivated to press forward when you are sick and tired. A desire like that can move mountains and alter the course of rivers.
Most people wish for big things but can’t really see themselves getting them. Such as wishing to heal from a chronic illness, that is pretty “impossible” according to Western Medicine, especially if you already spend so much time and money into fixing your health.
The few who achieve great things are those who not only passionately wanted to achieve them but also clearly SEE THEMSELVES ACHIEVING THEM.
A burning desire backed by faith simply means deeply, passionately wanting to get somewhere and knowing – not hoping, not wishing, but KNOWING that you’re going to get there.
In the course of your journey all sort of obstacles will appear in the path. And you can determine the size of the person by the size of the problem that keeps them down. Successful people look at a problem and see opportunities.
HABIT #3: BE WILLING TO PAY THE PRICE
When I moved to California to purchase my dream job, I realize that making that choice would mean paying the price – and that anything worth having is worth paying that price for.
When I say “be willing to pay the price” I can see people wince. I know what they’re thinking: “Ahh, I knew it, here it comes – to be successful I am going to have to make this gigantic, painful sacrifice.”
Actually, its not that dramatic. Your dreams may be big, but the steps you take to get there are always going to be small. Before my move to California, for 4 years I had to work at 3 different jobs (i was a barista, worked at the gym and at the hospital) to save up every penny I earned. The money I saved I was able to pay for my student loan, then for rent. Later on, my sister and I invested into hiring mentors and coaches.
Whatever the ream, whatever the goal, there is a price you’ll need to pay, and yes, that does mean giving up something.
I hit a decision point where I’d suffered some major health problems and it was time to pick up the pieces of my life, and regroup.
I also knew I couldn’t do this without changing something: I had to pay a price. It was a difficult choice.
Remember this: whatever price you pay, there’s a bigger price to pay for NOT doing it than the price for doing it. The price of neglect is much worse than the price of discipline.
Viktoriya and Oksana Gruzdyn are Nutritionists and Immunotherapy Researchers based in Detroit, MI. They specialize in helping people reverse autoimmune and other chronic illnesses by optimizing their immune function and cellular repair.