Number one cause for all mental health issues

Did you know that 60% of people who had trauma and abuse get diagnosed with a chronic illness?

People often believe that when someone has been abused, it means they have been either physically abused or emotionally abused BUT neglect also considered as abuse and creates trauma.

Which creates a FALSE calm.

How do you know the pain is still there?

The moment somebody or something reminds you of either abuse or neglect, you overreact as if you have been just burned alive.

Connection with parents

All children are born with the innate need to be loved and nurtured by BOTH of their parents.

When one parent is absent, it automatically creates an abandonment wound.

This means they go through adulthood assuming someone will hurt or abandon them.

As a result, the child will develop coping mechanisms to protect themselves but since they were not modeled love, they often turn to self-sabotaging methods such as food addictions (or any type of addiction) or isolation, lack of self-respect and trust issues as a method of soothing themselves.

The outcome of this unresolved trauma can often result in poor relationships with others, difficulty trusting others, addictions and mental health concerns.

Summary: Your childhood creates a template how you like to give and receive love and how you like to resolve conflict.  If there was exposure to parents and caregivers that led you to believe that people are full of love and that you can trust people, you will most likely attract good people and treat them full of love. So no matter how much you push or pull until you understand someone else’s triggers, your relationships will always be like a roller-coaster. Without that perspective, every fight will feel like a thunderstorm and every resolution will feel like pulling teeth when it could be a lot easier when you speak the language someone’s understand when they were children.

Communication

If we grew up in an environment where open communication was encouraged, and conflicts were resolved peacefully.

We are more likely to have healthy communication skills in our relationships with others.

However, if we grew up in an environment where communication was discouraged, or conflicts were never resolved, we may never struggle with expressing our emotions and resolving conflicts in business, life or health.

Role Models

Our parents or primary caregivers serve as role models for intimate relationships. If our parents had healthy relationships, we may have a better understanding of what a healthy relationship looks like with ourselves and others.

Sons with single moms are more likely to be cheated on by their partners.

They start to idolize their single mother and assume often become very naïve when it comes to women.

They start to think that women tell the truth, they don’t lie, and men are bad. They don’t know the protocol of what a married woman should be like.

When children don’t have their father, they will often remove the pain by destroying their reputation. They start saying: “I hate him. I didn’t really need a dad. He was evil and the most terrible person in the world.” Even if the father was the worst person on the planet, it doesn’t change the fact that a child needed 2 parents growing up.

𝐒𝐮𝐦𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐲:

𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐮𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐳𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐫𝐞𝐧 𝐢𝐧 𝟐 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬.

𝐎𝐧𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐥𝐲 𝐚𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐞 (𝐩𝐡𝐲𝐬𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥 𝐨𝐫 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐚𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐞).

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭, 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐧𝐞𝐠𝐥𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐫𝐞𝐧, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐜𝐞𝐫𝐧 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧.

𝐁𝐨𝐭𝐡 𝐞𝐪𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐝𝐚𝐦𝐚𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐠.

Children will start to think that THEY ARE unlovable, THEY ARE the problem.

Children need to know that they are loved first and then they can explore the environment and be independent.

When you have loving, secure and safe parents you can do anything by yourself.

However, when they are not loved by their parents or were neglected by their parents; they will constantly look for codependency because they don’t feel as safe.

When you are there for your children in early years, they will start to trust that their parents love them, and people are loving. 

And they will often make good decisions for themselves in the future.

It is important to ask yourself how your personal trauma and insecurities are going to ruin your relationships with others because people often are blinded by their own wounds.

Some of my greatest allies were created while trudging through the bottom.

They helped me discover an asset much more valuable than money.

  • jealousy
  • chronic negativity
  • lying

The jealous speak unfavorably behind your back and flatter to your face.

Negative people siphon your energy and bring you low to match them.

They spin everything they can to substantiate their pessimism and you’ll end up depressed all the time.

Lying means there’s no moral center and if someone lies, they will likely do anything.

My coaches and my friends are 100% without a doubt honest and I’d trust them with almost anything.

We praise each other up in public and are quick to look out for each other.

  • they want you to keep winning bigger, even if they’re struggling with something.
  • they help you see the good in everything, but never at your own expense.
  • they tell you hard stuff to your face and acknowledge you in public.

Love my people. Your greatest assets are your friends.

Owning who you are, means owning all of it. – The quirks, the ambition, and even your flaws. Life is too short to spend time hiding your own nature. Dig into it, really live in your lane…and be unapologetically yourself.

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