A few years ago, I went to a business event.

It was held at one of his homes, and it was stunning.

The views, the decor, the food, and the ambiance — everything was planned to the smallest detail.

When I spoke to his wife later in the evening, telling her how incredible the experience was, she said, “Oh, you know X…he always expects the best.” …and the thing is, he gets it.

It can be controversial to talk about it, but there is a position we give ourselves based on what we expect.

Some will tell you, “Have low expectations and you’ll always be happy,” but I firmly disagree.

Not only do people with low expectations seem the unhappiest, at least in my experience, but those same expectations often turn into traps.

In business, in health, like in life, your expectations often define your outcomes.

  • → If you have low expectations, then you risk staying stuck, settling, or feeling frustrated.
  • → If you have high expectations, surprisingly, you often get what you want. That’s not to say that you won’t face obstacles along the way — life is full of challenges — but it does set the tone for what you do, how you do it, and whether or not you even believe things are possible for you.

And if you’ve only got one life, and obstacles are inevitable either way, shouldn’t you at least try to get what you want?

So, with the start of this new year, I want to issue a challenge.

Forget the resolutions, forget the “New Year, New You” marketing, and let’s dive into something real.

Something impactful, something with the potential to change the game for you — not just this year — but every. single. year.

Your challenge?

Raise your expectations.

Decide to expect the best for yourself, your business, your health or your career — and just like the man above — let’s talk about how you can actually get it. …

Remain true to your true needs, values, desires and outcomes. If you remain to your true needs and values; it might take you longer to achieve it, but once you get it, it will be more sustainable.

Fear is an indicator that your journey is important.

“Self-esteem is not how much confidence you have in how well people perceive you, but how much confidence you have in whether or not you can manage your own life.” Brianna Wiest

The “easy” life is overrated. 

I do not crave an easy life. 

Strong leaders are given the opportunity to develop that strength via struggle. You are not lucky when your life is too easy. This makes you weak; luck arrives when the challenges do. 

When I look at the last 10 years it’s clear to see where I struggled or declined. Every single time I craved comfort, I got slapped upside the head. Why is this?

Because growth plateaus when there is no more turbulence. Growth is a literal byproduct of resistance. 

Here are my favorite things about resistance and how you can use the trying moments to become a better version of yourself: 

  • It tempers you; things that bothered you before somehow matter a bit less every time you have to face them.
  • It reduces fear and worry; most of us are afraid of things that are worse in our heads than in real life, exposure therapy removes this.
  • It makes you pause; most of our problems come from running ‘quickly’ in the ‘wrong’ direction… there is a lot of utility in slowing down (throttling performance) to ensure you’re performing in the right direction.
  • It divides your circles; I like winning with people who like to see me winning and vice versa… nothing shows you who to roll with and who to abandon like going through adversity.
  • It cleans your hubris; the obstacle to learning something new is what you learned last year… letting go of what you think you know makes room for learning new things.
  • It resets you emotionally; if you’ve ever felt like you cannot feel, adversity will reset that and the deeper it goes the more powerful it heals… for me, last summer was the most adversity I’ve ever experienced and it allowed me to reset.
  • It sharpens your skills; you have to become better when there is more on the line… adversity offers you the option to become BETTER rather than getting angry.
  • It lines up your priorities; if you let it do its work then it will show you what really matters and what does not matter that much… this re-prioritization is extremely beneficial
  • Lastly, it calls you FORWARD; oftentimes the most powerful place to be in is when you are afraid to go forward but you can NO LONGER go back… fear is not an indicator you are on the wrong path — indifference is an indicator you are on the wrong path.

Fear is an indicator that your journey is important.

Go where the fear is, not away from it. 

A hard truth about learning: When you are at the lowest is when you make the most significant changes that will alter the course of your life. Being sick of your life, your situation, your lack of progress. Hard times are where the largest mental transformations happen.

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