IGNORANCE ABOUT CHRONIC ILLNESS

Yesterday I talked to a past client who was reversed her Scleroderma one years ago.

All of her labs are completely normal, with no sign of her disease. She is still energetic and healthy, pain and symptom free.

After her labs were negative, she asked her rheumatologist to taper her off her medications and he told her that was not a good idea, because even though she had zero symptoms and normal labs, the disease is still there “because it is incurable,” and therefore she should remain on medications for the rest of her life.

It is not the first time, we hear this from doctors.

She called me to discuss her frustrations. I sympathized that it was impressive how an intelligent educated person would create such an irrational explanation for what she was witnessing in her patient, rather than open her mind to the idea that maybe autoimmune diseases are not incurable after all, and that maybe there is a better way to treat them.

While doctors are actively learning about how powerful nutrition is in reversing disease, there are still many doctors that are so immersed in the old ways of treating disease, where only medications and surgeries are considered viable treatments, and even when they witness people healing right in front of them, they refuse to see it.

Some of them will often offer odd, dismissive, or irrational answers, like “maybe the medications just suddenly kicked in (after years)” or “I don’t know what happened, but I am sure it is not the food.”

As a scientist, I believe it is imperative that we observe what is happening in front of us with an open mind and curiosity, not with judgment and preconceived beliefs.

However, I do understand the skepticism and disbelief.

I myself never believed until I started to be a witness seeing our clients healing so rapidly and they remain pain free, symptom free, normal labs for years. 

We always tell our clients that if your doctor says you can’t reverse autoimmune diseases that just means they have never done it or seen it, not that it isn’t possible. We always tell our clients to stay with their doctor so they can prove it to them.

Are you ready to prove them wrong?

Information is not enough to reverse autoimmunity

A decade ago, I was in the worst health of my life. After seeing my best friend get diagnosed with a chronic illness at the age of twenty-one, I took a good look at myself and realized I wasn’t very far behind her. I used to spend up to 90 hours a week sitting in front of a computer, studying in college.

My diet consisted mostly of pop tarts, coffee, pizza, Dr. Pepper.
The habits I developed from being overworked, overstressed, and not treating my body well resulted in:

Gut issues
• Acne
• Chronic fatigue

And I was only in my early twenties.
I realized I needed to make a big change in my life, so I sought the best information I could possibly find. Using my creative thinking and my sister’s studies in biochemistry, we were able to completely transform our life.

With proper nutrition, we were able to:

Reverse hair loss
• Reverse acne
• Reverse chronic fatigue

Since then, we’ve helped countless others do the same thing. It is achievable when you know what you’re doing and it does not require supplements/herbs/fasting.

What has been frustrating is that even though my sister and I invested 300,000 US dollars in our undergraduate and graduate education, post graduate education, and nutritional and clinical conferences, ONLY when we started to work with people and testing different strategies for disease reversal, that is when we started to get incredible results.

What is the key?

When I started understanding biology, I believe that from our lowest level we are all EXACTLY the same.

I wanted to end the frustration for people who couldn’t seem to achieve the results they expected:

They wanted to:

Heal from a chronic illness without spending thousands of dollars on expensive food or supplements.
• Increase energy so they can finally do the things they wanted to do with their life: play with their children, go out dancing, go to work, spend more time with their loved ones.

I believe that at the lowest level of our bodies, we are nothing more than CELLS being operated by molecules. In the world of computer animation, if your program returns the wrong results that means you made a mistake in your programming. It’s NEVER a problem with the hardware.

Once you fix the programming, the computer returns the right results every time.

The reason why people are not getting results they want was that they didn’t quite understand the programming of the human body.

You could pay a lot of money to go to retreat, clinic, supplements, detoxes, herbs or spa in search of your best health outcomes. But our plan is a lot less money (because it is only the foods that you can buy at your grocery store) and frankly, is easy to follow that it is certainly worth it. Results are typical.

Ask your doctor if you can heal from a chronic illness. But make sure your doctor is educated, trained and result-drives as us to create the excellent health that so many of us crave and need.

Having autoimmune disease can take over your life. Chronic pain, lack of energy, and failing organs not only makes you feel awful, but you end up missing out on activities such as work, school, friendships, because you are sick or too tired to do the things you want to do.

Our clients know all about it. Most of them struggled with fatigue, migraines and many have been off medications with normal laboratory tests and no symptoms for months and years!

Together we want to give as many people as we can the gift that we got, to live healthy and pain free, to grow old with the person they love, and give back to the world and help others.

This leads me to a next point: when we started working with people locally in Michigan and giving out meal plans, we realized information on what to eat just wasn’t enough for most people to change their habits and save their own lives.

My sister decided to leave her job and work along me to focus on COACHING through the process of recovery and educating our clients on nutrient and building habits for long-term success.

So we started with online videos and phone consultations with people, and we spend over an hour with people and go through everything they were doing and help them figure out how to do this: we will say “change your breakfast to this, change your lunch to this, oh looks like you’re reacting to this food,” etc. and we give them a plan.

Now some people were able to follow our instructions and get their health back, and they never needed us again. My sister and I will get a text message from them a few weeks or months later saying they feel great and a photo of them doing something amazing.

The problem was that some people have their appointment with us and then still don’t do what we told them to do! We email them our notes and their personalized plan and say: “go do this, this is it, this is your personalized plan” and then life gets in the way again and they quit.

So, I said okay, I have got to figure out a way to provide more support and hold people’s hands until they cross the finish life, and that’s why we created our program where we support you daily through the recovery.

It can be a menu advice for a restaurant, how to deal with upcoming travel, how to deal with cravings, your work schedule, or stress at work that is interrupting your recovery.

Since it is a fast recovery, you are following our customized rapid recovery nutritional plan and we help you every single day to make sure you’re doing it right and the results are amazing.

The people who have worked this plan with us have told us it was the best thing they have done for themselves. Eliminating a disease means not only eliminating pain and suffering, but also eliminating medical bills!

The amount of intensity of the program and the amount of HOURS it requires to give that level of care is out of this world.

Helping people 1-1 reverse their diseases has given us enormous expertise into mental and emotional traits and habits of those that struggle to change their diet and their lifestyle.

Over time, it became not only a place to learn, but a place to rewire the way people talk to themselves, think about themselves and their illnesses, and learn the habits they need to truly transform their lifestyle so they can successfully reverse their autoimmune diseases and continue to live a healthy life in perpetuity.

Graduates of the program tell us they not only feel healthy physically, but they are happy; their anxiety has melted away, and they no longer feel stressed.

I have seen the major patterns and issues that people struggle with to adopt this new lifestyle, and we teach how to focus not just on the nutrition but the mindset, the pitfalls, and how to overcome the obstacles and self-sabotage behaviors that might stop you from achieving your goals.

These lessons help with limiting beliefs and self-sabotage, and how to create a healing mindset and healing lifestyle. We want your story to be the next success story. Apply to participate in our next autoimmune recovery program so you can get the support and guidance that you need to get your health back: https://webinar.viktoriyaandoksana.com/apply

A STORY OF TWO FRIENDS

I want to tell you about two friends I’ve knows since I was a kid.

These two characters, grew up together, went to school together, and graduated together.

I got along with both of them.

They had identical childhood, and both worked very hard. They  both had more than enough drive and ambition to make up for whatever strikes they had against them.

When you add it all up, in terms of their potential, I would say they were evenly matched. In fact, they were identical in every way.

The first friend worked 3 different jobs, didn’t take much care of her health and eventually got sick – gained weight, was depressed, was tired all the time, experienced hair loss, and gut issues.

Then there was my other friend, she was someone I admired – each day she took care of her health, was surrounded by amazing supportive friends and mentors, graduated on top of her class with honors, had full of energy and enthusiasm for life and is happy beyond measure. Yet she still stays in touch with her childhood friend.

In fact, they stay in VERY close in touch.

I often think about these two, because I know I could have been either one of the. Matter of fact, I WAS. Because here is the one piece of the story I left out: the reason those two went to school together, and the reason they are still in constant contact today, its that they are one and the same person.

They are both me.

That girl who sick and frustrated and tired. That was yours truly.

That straight A college graduate who never quit, who has a bigger vision and loved helping people from all over the world. Guilty as charged.

I’ve been blessed with a lot of success in my life.

But I sure didn’t start out that way.

I started out that girl born and raised in Ukraine, who was sick and tired.

And I’ll take you a secret: I am the same person today that I was then.

Not that I haven’t changed a lot through my experiences; we all do that, what I mean is, deep down inside, I am really not that  different than I was then. I did not go into mountaintop, did not have a near death experience that showed me the truth. (Although I did go through some pretty terrible failures that at the time sure FELT like near-death experiences).

I didn’t change who I WAS as much as I changed what I DID.

The only reason I made the transformation from there to here is that, somehow along the way, I’ve had the good fortune of being exposed to the right coach.

How I got from there to here-and how YOU can get from wherever you are to wherever you want to be – is doing things no one is willing to do.

The transition from sick girl to now did not happen overnight.

It was a long, slow, at times painful roller-coaster process, because frankly, I didn’t know what I was doing. I didn’t have the knowledge, i didn’t have the right support. I was working it out by trial and error. Lot of error.

I was born and raised in Ukraine. My father moved to USA with only 300 US dollars in his pocket. I was pretty healthy as a child but later on neglected my health.

For whatever reason, as happens in so many peoples lives, I found myself staring squarely at a fork in the road, a point I now refer to “my day of disgust: that moment of impact we sometimes hit in our lives when we come smack face to face with circumstances and, without having a clue to the what or how of it, make a decision to change.”

In that instant, I came to just such a moment of decision. Something clicked; and I knew I could never go back to where I’d been only moment earlier.

I knew that for things to be different, I had to DO something different.

As I type these worlds, I am healthier, more energize, and more alive today that I was ten years ago. I am happier today, have supportive environment, and more of fulfilling life, than I did ten years ago. And I expect to be saying the same thing ten years from now.

I want that life for YOU. And it all start with you and taking care of YOUR health and make yourself a priority.

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“You either pay the price for success or pay the price in regret.”

Photo of me in Ukraine, we lived in powerty in a 1 bathroom apartment with a family of five

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The biggest illusion you ever experience is when you tell yourself something cannot be done

The biggest illusion you ever experience is when you tell yourself something cannot be done.

When I first started my immunology and cancer research nine years ago, I had a conversation with my PI. I learned one of the most valuable lessons of my life…

A lot of doctors in my field believe that diet has nothing to do with a chronic illness.

All those people who believed it could not be done, they never tried. THEY NEVER TRIED.

Why try something if you believe it is impossible? Why try?

I was foolish enough to believe that you can heal. I hope I stay foolish forever for the rest of my life. If I was foolish, I would find a way.

So I want to share it with you how this is done.

The reason why I am sharing this with you because I know there will come a time when you embark on a journey and it appears that it is impossible; please think of me at this very moment.

And people always ask us how do you create the impossible?

Sometimes innovations can feel like they are impossible. And how do you approach that? How?

The first step to creating truly what is possible is you must BELIEVE with your heart and soul that it can be done. You must absolutely have no doubt at all. And when you really believe that it can be done. And you really believe that with the intensity – YOU TAKE THE FIRST STEP. 

Why?

BECAUSE OUR BELIEFS DICTATE OUR ACTIONS IN LIFE.

So, you take the first step. Only when you take the first step, you can see the SECOND step. You cannot see the second step from step zero. You must be on the journey, you must be on the step one.

And then you see the second step.

And when you take that first step people might ask you: “why are you so crazy to stay on this first step?”

And it is because you BELIEVE IN IT.

Think about for a second. When you believe in something or even someone, do you ever give in?⁉️

No, you don’t. No matter how tough the journey gets, you continue the journey. You don’t give in.

So the most important is the very first step. Often, we look at the challenge before us and before we even inspect that challenge, we label it as being impossible. Before we even try and take that first step, we label it “IT CANNOT BE DONE.”

As a scientist, I understand one thing or two about ILLUSIONS.

That I can tell you now with certainty that the biggest illusion you ever experience is when you tell yourself something cannot be done. It is not real, YOU created that.

And where do those beliefs come from? It comes from top 5 people we spend time with.

That’s where they come from. If you have self-limited beliefs, change the people you spend time with.

Beliefs change with them. My greatest fulfillment is unlocking levels far above what people even knew was possible…

p.s. If you believed that you can reverse your autoimmune disease, get off your medicine and reverse your symptoms, what steps would you take?

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“I am grateful for the consequences of my choices.”
Nothing is happening to you.
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The #1 secret to start healing right away

This is this single most vital and yet least addressed aspect to healing: emotional help, self-love and acceptance. Many diseases originally stems from not loving ourselves, lack of self-acceptance, self-criticism, hate, anger, or not listening to intuition or living in tune with who we really are and what our heart actually wants. 

Maybe we are taught to think that we are not wonderful people inside or we do not deserve to invest in ourselves. 

One of the first things, people feel when their body breaks down is that they start to feel discouraged, they get angry, they get frustrated with their bodies, they blame themselves and their bodies. All of those things are very negative, and it will impair their body from healing.

One of the first things you need to do if you want to heal physically, is you need to heal emotionally. Here are a few things you can do:

1. Come up with a reasons why you want to live and why you want to get well. Maybe you have a family you need to take care of, you want to travel, or have children, you want to be able to see your grandchildren grow up, you want to be able to dance, sing, draw again. Everyone who is sick want to get well, but they do not know why. You have to find whatever that is that vibrates and resonates with you the most.

2. Every single day you wake up write a list of things you love about your life: your cat, your dog, your children, your parents, your husband or your wife, your home and you would not want to give up ever. Feel the deep love for those things.

3. Try to find humor in everything. Laughter is truly the best medicine. My dedication to humor is really kept me from getting depressed and hopeless when I was sick. No matter what you are going through, I hope you find a reason to smile today.

Your body feels and senses if your mind does not accept who you are. Your body might try to heal itself but it will not be in sink in a way that your body and mind is working. My best advice for people out there, that we cannot wait until your body is in perfect health you need to TAKE ACTION each day to get there and be more self-aware of all the things you do, think, and eat each day. 

You deserve to be loved, you deserve to invest in yourself because you are alive and the world needs you.

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“I have a one-word definition of attitude: life. Attitude is the difference maker in life. It’s the treasure that lies within you. A positive attitude is the key that jump starts your life. Attitude dictates whether you’re living life or life is living you. Attitude determines whether you are on the way or in the way.” – Keith Harrell

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Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.

How do you use purpose to create an extraordinary life? Ebenezer Scrooge shows us how.

The redemptive tale of Scrooge’s transformation from stingily, callous, and unloved to considerate, caring and beloved is one of the best examples of how our destinies are determined by our decisions, our lives shaped by our choices.

One Christmas Eve, Ebenezer Scrooge is visited by the deceased spirit of Jacob Marley, his former business partner. We do not know if this a dream or if it’s real. Marley wails, “I am here tonight to warn you, that you have yet a chance and hope of escaping my fate. You will be haunted by three spirits” – from the past, present, and future, as it turns out. “Remember what has passed between us!”

Now, let’s stop for a second and bear in mind who Scrooge is. Dickines describes him as a man whose old features are frozen by the cold within him. No one cares, for he cares for no one. He is bitter, mean, old sinner – cold to the sight, cold to the touch, and cold of heart, with no thaw in sight. His life is lonely existence, and the world is worse off for it.

Over the course of the evening, the tree spirits visit Scrooge to show him his past, present, and future. Through these visits he sees how he became the man he is, how his life is currently going, and what will ultimately happen to him and those around him. It’s a terrifying experience that leaves him visible shaken when he wakes the next morning. Not knowing whether it was real or a dream, but giddy upon discovering no time has passed, Scrooge realizes there is still time to alter his fate. In a joyous blur, he rushes into the street and instructs the first boy he sees to go buy the biggest turkey at the market and send it anonymously to the home of his sole employee, Bob Cratchit. Upon seeing a gentleman he’s once rebuffed for pleasing charity for the needy, he pays for forgiveness and promised to donate huge sums of money to the poor.

Ebenezer eventually ends up at the one of his nephew, where he begs forgiveness for being such a fool for far too long and accepts an invitation to stay for holiday dinner. His nephew’s wife and guests, shocked at his heartfelt bliss, can barely believe this is Scrooge.

The next morning, Bob Cratchit, upon arriving noticeably late to work, is confronted by Scrooge: “What do you mean coming here at this time of day? I am not going to stand for this sort of thing any longer!” Before this news can sin it, the incredulous Cratchit hears him say, “And therefore I am about to raise your salary!”

Scrooge lives out the rest of his days spending him time and money doing everything he can for others.

Through this simple story, Charles Dickens shows us a simple formula for creating an extraordinary life: Live with purpose. Live by priority. Live by productivity.

As I reflect on this story, I believe Dickens reveals purpose as a combination of where we’re going and what’s important to us. He implies that our priority is what we place the greatest importance on and our productivity comes from the actions we take. He lays out life as a series of connected choices, where our purpose sets our priory and our priority determines the productivity our actions produce. To Dickens, our purpose determines who we are.

Scrooge is transparent and easy to understand, so let’s revisit A Christmas Carol through the lens of Dicken’s formula. At the place we enter his life, Scrooge’s purpose is clearly about money. He pursues a life either working for it or being alone with it. He cares for money more than for people and believes that money is the end by which any means are justifies. Based on his purpose, his priority is straightforward: making as much money for himself as he can. Collecting coin is what matters to Scrooge. As a result, his productivity is always seemed at making money. When he takes a break from making it, for fun, he counts it. Earning, netting, leading, receiving, tallying – these are the actions that fill his days, for he is greedy, selfish, and unmoved by the human condition of those around him.

By Scrooge’s own standards, he’s highly productive in accomplishing his purpose. By anyone else’s it’s simply a miserable life.

This would be the end of the story, were it not for the perspective provided to Ebenezer by his former partner. Jacob Marley didn’t want Scrooge to reach the same dead end he had. So, after the haunting, what happened to Scrooge? By Dicken’s account, his purpose changed, which changed his most important priority, which changed where he focused his productivity. After Marley’s intervention, Scrooge experienced the transformation power of a new purpose.

So, who did he become? Well, let’s look.

As the narrative ends, Scrooge’s purpose is no longer money, but people. He now cares about people. He cares about their financial circumstances and their physical condition. He sees himself happily in relationships with others, lending a hand any way he can. He values helping people more than hoarding money and believes money is good for the good it can do.

What is his priority? Where he once saved money and used people, he now uses money to save people. His overriding priority is to make as much money as he can so he can help as many as he can. His actions? He is productive throughout his days putting every penny he can toward others.

The transformation is remarkable, the message unmistakable. Who we are and where we want to go determine what we do and what we accomplish.
A life lived on purpose is the most powerful of all – and the happiest.

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How to THINK at the level that “pulls” you towards your health goals instead of “pushing” you away from them…

Lesson learned from my coaches: How to THINK at the level that “pulls” you towards your health goals instead of “pushing” you away from them…

You must understand that 80% of your results come from your activities. If you dig yourself in a hole you won’t get out if you do not take the opportunity that you are presented with to change. 

Here are examples of ILLNESS mentality:

1️⃣️ You place blame EXTERNALLY instead of taking responsibility (my genetics are terrible, I cannot afford to eat healthy, so I rather suffer; I need to save my money before I invest into fixing my problem).

2️⃣ You put off important decisions that should be made NOW, so you don’t have to face reality (I’ll just decide/act/change later).

3️⃣ You more comfortable living a storybook where everything “seems” great than FORCING through the resistance and getting to place where everything becomes great. 

4️⃣️ You say you want something and yet you’re NOT making DECISIONS based on what you say you want. Your actions don’t reflect your words. 

You would rather be a “consumer” of information and “hope” that eventually you can put it all together and “figure it out.”

Here are examples of HEALTHY mentality.

LIMIT what you “accept” and, therefore, extract more (time, money, energy) from the world than anyone else.

Ask yourself HARD-TO-ANSWER questions daily (such as, “What is one thing that is preventing me from healing?” “Am I always saying that nobody cares about me and doctors don’t listen to me?” “Am I looking for reasons why something cannot work rather than for reasons why it can work?” “Is what I am doing working? What happens if I don’t change what I’m doing? How is this affecting my family and relationships?”).

Your words reflect your actions. You are willing to do whatever it takes to reverse your health issue and led go of your addictions, mental blocks, and your reasons why you can’t do something.

Basically, you must DECIDE that you are not going to tolerate your illness anymore. 

If you stay in the mindset of ILLNESS.

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Now you have a choice to make:

Plan A:

  • Keep trying medicine after medicine and supplement after supplement hoping for a cure while still suffering from physical and emotional pain and dangerous drug side effects.
  • Continue to believe that there is “nothing you can do” because doctors made it very clear despite the evidence and RESULTS that our clients reverse their symptoms and their labs even after decade of illness.
  • Waste between $500 – $1,000 per month on vitamins, herbs and supplements while still having an autoimmune disease.
  • Spending between $2,000-$4,000 on useless “special” tests as if they will hold an answer to what you need to do to reverse your disease.
  • ​Continue paying for virtual visits to the function doctors or naturopath cost $235 – $500 for an hour who just tells you “follow AIP,  gluten free, sugar free, dairy free diet, do a detox, eat whole food, eat organic as much possible, do a cleanse or water fast” while still having flare ups and not knowing exactly what works for YOU. 
  • ​​Worried about spending more money (10K per year) and still not having your illness reversed.
  • Continue seeing your doctor who doesn’t even care about you and tells you only bad news about your illness. 

Plan B:

  • Learn how to use nutrition with our daily STEP by STEP  guidance to fix your immune system so it goes back to normal function and no longer attacks your tissues and organs. 
  • No longer need to continue seeing your functional doctor, do “special” tests, and take supplements.
  • Minimize or eliminate drug requirements because your symptoms and labs reverse, and you are no longer diagnosable as having and autoimmune disease. 
  • Be able to move without pain.
  • ​Live a full life without limitations.
  • Stop taking useless supplements and get off your medications that are affecting your liver and other organs and make you feel terrible anyway.
  • ​You want your spouse to be able to do things he/she wants to do and stop taking care of you.
  • You want to be able to take care of your children and not having your children take care of you. 
  • ​Learn how to maintain your health long so you never get sick again. 
  • ​​Feel motivated again to live your life to the fullest, feel positive, inspired and excited for your future.
  • ​Amaze your rheumatologist and your family/friends with how incredible you feel in 40 days. 
  • ​Learn how to be flexible with your diet after your disease is reversed. 

You can choose to make a difficult decision NOW (which is not going to be easy or comfortable) to get the OUTCOME that you want LATER.

If you prioritize short term comfort over long TERM comfort, you are in for an epic FAIL. 

Remember that: “The greatest ‘secret” in life right now is that by “ACCEPTING” your current reality, you are succumbing to it AND saying “NO” to a better alternative.”


“Fear isn’t always a bad thing. Just make sure you’re afraid of the right things” – Chris and Taylor

Viktoriya and Oksana LLC Peer-reviewed published Scientists and experts in optimizing the immune function using science-based cellular nutrition.

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Happy 39 anniversary Mom and Dad

I remember countless events in which my parents taught me how to think.

When I was seven, we were living in Kharkov, Ukraine. One winter, the heater stopped. In some places, that’s an inconvenience.

At that time in Ukraine, where winter temperatures regularly dip below minus twenty degrees, it’s a dire situation. The challenge was that we couldn’t afford to fix the heater.

Though Dad and Mom worked hard to care for us three kids, we were living paycheck to paycheck.

It would be at least a week until my dad got paid and we had enough money to fix the heater.

Looking back, the situation could have been terribly stressful for us kids, let alone for our parents.

But they were resourceful people, and they both sought to bring joy into everyday life.

So instead of panicking, my mom got out our camping tent, and set it up in our tiny 1 bathroom 500 square ft apartment.

She threw in our sleeping bags and coats and blankets.

We kids, oblivious of the dire situation, just thought we were camping. We’d walk to school and ask the other kids, “Where did you sleep last night?” When they said in their bedrooms, we’d brag that we were camping out in our one and only room. My parents made a difficult situation fun. Turning adversity into a good time is one of life’s highest arts, and Mom and Dad were good at it.

Through all the challenges my parents faced raising us kids, they taught us to be self-reliant. That’s how they wanted us to think of ourselves: that no matter the situation, we could handle it and make the best of it.

I have a lot of memories of accompanying my mother to work. She was a midwife in Ukraine and she loved her job. She was a genuinely happy and kind. After getting married to our father at the age of 20, she worked the night shifts, all the while taking care of three kids.

She and dad had very little growing up, and very little as they worked hard to raise us.

I have great respect for my father, as you can imagine how it must have felt when he came to United Stated in his forties with only 300 dollars in his pocket without speaking the word of English and without his family?

I remember our dad, a very intelligent engineer who build programs for space shuttles at the age of 23, telling us how he had to start all over again: learn a new language, learn how to drive a car… among when he just survived a heart attack and alcohol addiction a couple of years prior.

Later on, he told me he was scared that he might never see us again. When I asked him, what was it like to be all alone in a new country, to learn a new language, to learn how to drive a car? He told me he stayed up learning English so he could keep his job and had to work at the restaurant because he was not making enough money to pay for his tiny 1 bathroom apartment in Michigan.

That’s when he knew that if an opportunity came to change our current circumstances, he was going to do it and give it his all.

I believe the reason why we are where we are today is because our parents didn’t give up. They fought through the storms, never lied or stolen, and most importantly were honest with each other.

My mother, too, is remarkable. She is the one who kept our family together. Whatever she had trouble at work, she understood that most people were good and caring; it was just that when they were in a hurry they could be oblivious, dismissive, or rude. She started her career at 16 years old and found herself in the middle of the board meeting with one of the doctors putting her under the bus and lying about something my mom didn’t do.

She always gave people the benefit of the doubt. To Mom, everyone was like a neighbor, and she wanted to help them.

That’s how mom taught me to think of other people: as neighbors whom I should always give the benefit of the doubt and be helpful toward.

And when hurry or disappointment soured their attitude, I should meet them with patience and humor.

There’s no doubt what drew my dad to my mom: She is the most joyous and sweet person you could meet.

Mom kept a good attitude and expected us kids to treat everyone with compassion—even the mean people. She would remind us that people were doing the best they could and often just needed our help. Many of my childhood memories of my mom involve her helping people. Other people, she said, needed our attention and generosity.

Watching and listening to my parents, I learned how to think of other people. Mom and Dad didn’t teach me that other people were mean or bad. Instead, they trusted in the goodness of others in general, and showed me that with patience, grace, and humor, people could open up, change, and be friendly. More than anything, my parents gave me the gift of how to think of the world in positive terms.

They showed me that life is what you make of it, and that it’s here to be enjoyed. I can’t imagine my life without these lessons….Happy 39 anniversary Mom and Dad. We love you!Typically, those who positively influence people the most have something in common. They exert an effect on us, deliberately or not, by executing one or more of three influence actions.

First, they shape how we think. By their example, lessons they impart, or things they say to us, they open our eyes and make us think differently about ourselves, others, or the world.

Second, they challenge us in some way. They call us out on our stuff, or they raise our ambitions to be better in our personal life, relationships, and contributions to the world.

Third, they serve as role models. Their character, how they interact with us and others, or how they met the challenges of life inspires us.

Now think again of the three people who most positively influenced you. Can one or a combination of these influence actions explain their impact on you? If they taught you to be a better person, it probably happened because of a combination of all three, even if perhaps in subtle or unexpected ways.

“Any give moment we have two options: to step forward into growth or to step back into safety.” – Autonomous

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FORGIVE PEOPLE AND THE PAST

Forgiveness is a tricky concept and often gets muddled up with reconciliation.

When we forgive it’s an act of self-love: a way to free ourselves from negativity and reclaim our power. We don’t even need to communicate with the person we’re forgiving; yet they’ll probably feel the release on an energetic level.

Forgiving someone does not mean we are condoning their behavior or allowing it to continue.

Sometimes the most loving action is to set a boundary and stick to it.

It does however mean we’re forgiving the person, seeing past their pain and limitations to the divine being within. After all, we are all one.

Neither people nor your past need to have a hold over you.

This is not about condoning hurtful behavior, just not holding onto the thorns of it. “A Course of Miracles” describes forgiveness as removing a block from our awareness of love’s presence. It’s surprising how much energy is release when we forgive.

Equally important is forgiving yourself for past mistakes.

Even if you perceive you did something unforgiving remember that you, like everyone else, were just doing the best you could at the time.

If you can put aside some time for yourself where you’re not likely to be disturbed, try writing your relationship autobiography.

Start with your closet family, move on to your earliest friends, schoolmates and extended family.

Then expand into your network of adult relationships, friendships, and colleagues.

Perhaps your parent’s family comes next and maybe your children or grandchild, your ex who cheated on you.

Look at the interconnections between yourself and all these people. How did they come into your life? How do they make you feel? What are the strengths and weaknesses within your relationships? Where are the flashpoints, the harmonies? How many mirrors of your primary relationships with parents or guardians?

Changes are you won’t have gone through your life so far without hurting or being hurt by someone- it’s all part of our growth.

While you’re writing your autobiography, make a separate list of anyone who’s every hurt of disappointed you with a note of what they did or said. Include yourself if you feel yourself down.

Visualize sitting opposite each one of these people, having a conversation about how you feel. When you’ve expressed any negative feelings and are ready to let go of the emotion, (this might take some time) say you’re sorry and you love them and imagine releasing the whole situation heavenward.

When you reach the end of your list, write across it “I am willing to forgive and let go,” then shred or burn the list. Most people find that by this time they’re feeling considerably lighter and calmer.

With those closes to you it might take more than one exercise to complete the forgiveness but the payback will be worth it, as they’ll also feel the release on an energetic level. Roberto Assagioli once said “When joy is present, war is impossible.”

Think about this being true inside the body as well as outside.

Looking back I can now see that every situation I have been in has been necessary for my growth. It’s all perfect, though at the time I kicked right back. If you’d told me then that a difficult relationship was going to teach me things about myself I wasn’t prepare to face at the time, or that my health challenges would spurt me on to write this message, I would have given you a very choice response!

What are some people or situations you need to forgive and let go of?

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

There is no greater power in heaven or on earth than pure, unconditional love.

There is no greater power in heaven or on earth than pure, unconditional love. The nature of the God force, the unseen intelligence in all things, which causes the material world and is the center of both the spiritual and physical plane, is best described as pure, unconditional love. This God force is the oversoul to which we are always connected because we are localized extensions of that force.

I suggest you embark on an experiment in which you practice only unconditional love for several days. Vow to yourself that you will only allow unconditional loving thoughts to emanate from your consciousness. During this time, refuse to have judgmental or critical thoughts. In your quiet time, think only peace and love. In all of your relationships, think and act in only loving ways. Extend loving thoughts and energy wherever and whenever you encounter anyone or anything.

By pouring love into your immediate environment and practicing gentleness in all of your thoughts, words, and actions, your immediate circle of friends will begin responding in a whole new way. This act becomes expansive very quickly and you can radiate this love to your whole community. You become detached and loving toward all. You are not loving the hostile acts of others, but you are loving the spirit that is blocked in those who are harmful and unloving. When you can live this way and reject all thoughts and actions that are not of an unconditionally loving nature, you will experience the essence of your spirit and discover how to overcome limitations in your life.

What can you expect as you practice a few days of being total unconditional love? If all of your meditations are devoted to love, and if you pour love into every single situation and every single person you meet, and beyond that to everyone on the planet and to the infinity of the universe, you will feel yourself becoming a different person. You will sleep more soundly. You will feel at peace virtually all of the time. Your relationships will be more deeply spiritual. You will begin recognizing the “coincidences” of your life with greater regularity. Your thought forms of unconditional love will begin to produce what you desire without your even being aware of how it is happening.

THE COMPASSIONATE DECISION

I will greet this day with a forgiving spirit.

Forgiveness is a secret that is hidden in plain sight. It costs nothing and is worth millions. It is available to everyone and used by few. If you harness the power of forgiveness, you will be sought after and regarded highly. And not coincidentally, you will also be forgiven by others!

The Compassionate Decision changes the way most people view forgiveness.

A forgiving spirit allows you to let go of the past and embrace a compelling new future.

Harboring anger and resentment for others-regardless of whether or not “they deserve it” – poisons your soul and limits your growth.

When you embrace forgiveness through the Compassionate Decision, your level of personal success becomes boundless.

I couldn’t find a rule in any book I’ve ever read (including the Bible) that said in order for me to forgive somebody, the person who committed the offense had to ask for it or deserve it. And I couldn’t find anything that said, “Well, you can forgive a person as long as he or she hasn’t been doing the same stupid thing over and over again for twenty years.”

Everything I read and everything I felt within my soul said, “Forgive. Let it go,” I see now that by forgiving, I’m giving myself the ultimate gift, because forgiveness affects me much more than it affect another. It’s not even mandatory that the person I’m forgiving be aware of it. Forgiveness often means more to the forgiver than it does to the person being forgiven.

Sometimes when I’m talking about this, people say, “So…they’re just going to get away with it? I’m supposed to just forgive and forget?”
No. I am not suggesting that at all. Forgiveness is about you. Trust is about them. Forgiveness is about the past, trust is about the future. Do we forgive somebody who steal from us? Yes. Do we continue to do business with him? No.

Forgiveness is a decision, not an emotion. If we approach it through our emotions, out emotions inevitably drag us the other way. But if you will notice, emotions follow decisions. When we decide to forgive, our emotions follow along.

FORGIVE YOURSELF

We tend to be our own worst critic, and judgment is a double-edge sword. In order to liberate yourself to begin to forgive others, you must first forgive yourself. All the things we said we were going to do but didn’t. the promises we made and didn’t keep, the things we shouldn’t have done but did anyway have piled up, and it’s just too much for one person to bear. The guilt has turned into resentment, the resentment has turned into anger, and the anger, in its various forms, is taking over our lives. When we disappoint ourselves, it sets in motion a continual cycle of disappointment. It’s true. It is impossible to fight an enemy living in our heads.

Forgive yourself. Begin anew. The simple act of forgiving yourself will change your life! You will be positioned to become the person you want to be when you finally ditch the weight of guilt and shame you’ve been piling on for years. Forgive yourself. Your family not mad at you. Your friends aren’t mad at you. I’m not mad at you. God’s not mad at you. YOU don’t need to be mad at you either. Let it go. Forgive yourself and begin again.

From this day forward, your history needs to stop controlling your destiny. Your life has just begun! Your forgiveness is value only when you give it away. By the simple act of forgiveness, you can release the demons of your past and create a new beginning for yourself.

Forgive the people who don’t ask for it. Forgive yourself. From now on, your act of forgiveness will free you form unproductive thoughts. Your bitterness, resentment, and anger will be gone. It’s time to begin again.

“I will greet each day with a forgiving spirit.”

THE APPRECIATION LETTER TO YOURSELF

The purpose of this letter is to appreciate and free yourself from whatever you’ve been harboring against yourself. Commit to releasing something that you don’t need to hold on to any longer.

Example:

“Dear Viktoriya [use your name not mine].

I’ve missed you. It has been long since I’ve seen the fun, happy person I know you to be.

So now I want to ask for your forgiveness about something. You will remember, it was five years ago….[describe the event]

In closing, I want to acknowledge that you are one of the most special people in the world. These are the things that I appreciate about you…[list them]

Thank you for magical moments that you create for so many years, the ripples that you create by the way you live reach many more that you could ever know…

Love,
[your name]”

Now it’s your turn. Draft an appreciation-forgiveness letter to yourself.

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“Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.” – Mark Twain